Showing posts with label self love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self love. Show all posts

Saturday, August 9, 2014

Are You Constantly Punishing Yourself for Mistakes or Slip-Ups?



It takes an awful lot of courage to completely dedicate yourself 
to a healthy lifestyle or a specific weight loss goal.

Don't punish yourself for mistakes or slip-ups. Perhaps you indulged a bit too much last night at Happy Hour or at dinner. Maybe you decided to trade your usual morning exercise routine for an extra hour or two of sleep.  So what? 

                 You haven't completely blown it and you definitely are NOT a failure! 

Do not give it a second thought. Focusing on what you think you did wrong or getting angry at yourself, does nothing to inspire and motivate you and can actually set you up for failure! So...STOP

The moment those types of thoughts enter your brain - DISMISS THEM! 
Tell yourself you will try again later or tomorrow! 


Treat yourself the way you would treat that one person you care for 
more than anyone else in the world!  
With love. Patience. Grace. Understanding.

Yours in Good Health,
Cynthia
xo

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Nobody in the World Like You!






Watch this incredible video by John Legend. 



You are Unique. You are Beautiful! You are YOU!

Cynthia xo

Thursday, June 26, 2014

Honor Your Spirit Today


How will YOU honor your Spirit and give it priority today? 

Lose the idea that Self Love is selfish.  It isn't. In fact, it's the most unselfish act of all.....

Yours in Good Health,

Cynthia
xo

Thursday, April 26, 2012

I Want a Fit, Toned, Healthy Body!






Who doesn't want a fit, toned, healthy body? If that's what you want, you can have it, but all the thinking and wishing in the world won't get you any closer to it. You have to start taking steps in the right direction. They don't have to be giant steps. Those can be overwhelming and exhausting. We're all guilty of trying drastic measures in an effort to get things done quickly.

WE WANT RESULTS NOW!!  

What do I mean by Giant Steps? 

You haven't exercised in months (or years). One day you wake up and you are a maniac, working out several hours a day, and pushing and torturing your body in an effort to get fit fast.

OR....

You shock your body by drastically reducing the amount of food you eat and you wonder why you're tired, frustrated and not losing weight.  You starve and deprive yourself. You try all of the latest and greatest fad diets.

What usually happens when you take those kinds of giant steps? Eventually, you end up aggravated, frustrated and tired. You make everyone around you miserable. So, you give up. You slip right back to your regular, old habits and gain every ounce of weight you did lose back and then some............

Why torture yourself this way? Why not just take smaller steps?

Small steps in the right direction will still get you where you need to go.

Small Steps in the Right Direction:

Exercise. Definitely exercise! You don't need to wear yourself out or live in the gym. Just do something every day, for about 20 - 30 minutes. You can spread it out over your day if you don't have that much concentrated time to spare. Perhaps if you turned off the TV or stepped away from the computer, you would have the time. Just sayin'. :)

Yoga, weight training, Pilates, bike riding, dancing, swimming, house work, a walk around the block, in the park or on the beach, and yes, even sex, count as exercise. So pick one. Better yet, pick more than one and commit to doing something every day!

Forget crash dieting. Just make better food choices. Avoid fast food, if possible.  Eat more fruit, more vegetables, lean protein, whole grains. Fire up the BBQ and start grilling instead of frying. Skip the crappy carbs (bagels, rolls, white bread, white flour pasta, white rice, mashed potatoes). Limit sugar and sweet treats like cake, cookies and pies.  Try a square or two of dark chocolate when the chocolate cravings kick in. And watch the alcohol! Those calories count and alcohol slows down your metabolism and increases your cravings for crappy carbs.

No, you will not miraculously drop fifty pounds overnight, but you will lose excess fat and inches. And you will have firmer, more defined legs, arms, and abs! And your butt will look better in your jeans, too!  No, you will not look the model in the photo. At least not right away. She didn't get that body overnight and neither will you. But every move you make will bring one step closer.........

You will look and feel so much better. You will want to keep going. And you will be healthier; body, mind and spirit.  And healthy is sexy. Always.......

Yours in Good Health,
Cynthia

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Have I Discovered the Fountain of Youth? Maybe.......



Tomorrow is my 50th Birthday. Truth be told, I am a little anxious about the whole event. Coming to terms with the fact that I will officially be on this earth for half a century is keeping me awake at night.  I am not afraid of getting older. That's not it at all. I look forward to aging- gracefully. Why am I in a bit of panic? I'll share more about that later.  

I don't feel fifty. Not at all. And I certainly don't act it. I have more energy and pack more fun and activities into my already hectic life-style than most twenty-year olds I know. People are always asking if I've discovered the fountain of youth. Maybe...........

I know I look younger than my age. When the topic comes up, most people are genuinely shocked to discover how old I am. When they see photos or meet me in person, they think I am lying. It's partly genetics. I can't take all the credit. I inherited that thick, oily Italian skin from my mother. I am more fair-skinned than she is but even so, other than the dark circles under my eyes (also genetic but easily covered with a good concealer) I don't have a flaw or a tell-tale sign of aging on my face. Not even crow's feet around my eyes.

But that's just natural esthetics.  I have no magic skin care secrets to share other than this:

Take care of what you've got by drinking plenty of water, develop a good, daily skin care practice (use the best, most natural products you find)  and use sun screen because good genes will only take you so far.   

I religiously take care of my skin. I spoil it and treat it well because this is the only face I've got!

Other than that, I will share a few other secrets. Actually, they're not really secrets at all. You've heard them all before. In fact, I sound like a broken record because I constantly talk about this stuff:

Eat right:
Your daily diet should consist of lean protein, plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables, plant-based fats, and whole grains. Avoid junk food, fast food, processed crap, and sugary snacks. Avoid fad diets, starvation and deprivation. That stuff never works and nothing will age you faster than constant weight gain and weight loss.

Exercise:
You gotta move it or you will lose it. You will begin to sag and droop in places you never thought possible if you don't exercise. Nothing screams old age louder than a saggy ass. I don't have a particular daily exercise routine. I am not a gym rat. I hate working out. I force myself to do it. I walk, take the stairs, lift weights 2-3 times a week and do some yoga stretches at night. If I can squeeze it into my schedule, I'll go do a bit of Bikram once a week at a local studio. Bikram is an hour and a half of yoga in a 105 degree room.  I sweat out any impurities and it works wonders for my skin.  If you can handle the heat, try it,  but consult your doctor first. It might not be a good idea for those with high blood pressure or heart ailments.

The Three R's:
Huh? Reading, 'Riting, and 'Rithmetic? NO!

The three R's are: Rest, Rejuvenation and Recreation.  You absolutely must make time for all three in order to be young, look young, and stay young. You need to sleep. You need to chill, sit back and relax. You need to recharge your batteries now and then. Step away from everything, pay attention to details and listen to your body, mind and spirit and do what they tell you. Don't neglect the little things or eventually they will become too big to handle. And last but not least, what good is life without fun? Do you remember the last time you actually had fun?  The less fun you have or give yourself permission to have, the older you will feel. When you feel old you will look old. And act old. Then it's all down-hill from there.

Those are my secrets to looking, feeling, and staying young. No fountain of youth here. Just simple, easy, common-sense advice you already know.

So if I have all that down pat, why am I hyperventilating over turning 50?  Well......I am standing here at the cross roads of life fully aware that my time is running out. It doesn't matter how hard I work at staying young; my own mortality is hard simple fact. I will not live forever and there's so much in this great, big beautiful wonderful world I still want to see and do and experience. So many people I want to meet, love, touch, and learn from.  I've wasted so much time on such silly things. Fifty years have flown by so quickly and I don't want to waste another minute of the time I have left here on earth. I have this sense of urgency to get it all done, to stop second guessing myself and being afraid of the consequences.  I have the wisdom and experience of 50 years  and the heart and soul of a child. I am ready and raring to go. The fountain of youth is gushing and I am jumping in- head first!!

What is the fountain of youth?  It's not what you think. It's not a pill, portion, cream or cure.  You can't tap into it by eating a whole foods diet or by eating raw. You can drink all the clean, pure water from the Swiss Alps you want but it isn't in there either. You can't reach it by practicing yoga or meditation. These things can help, but they are not the answer.  The fountain of youth isn't a person, place or thing.  

The fountain of youth is within you. It's the most wonderful, amazing, essence of you and it never, ever ages. It springs from your heart and soul.  It's there. It always has been. You just need to figure out what's blocking it and let it flow!

And if you need a little help with that, I'm here. Let's chat.

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Body!

I think this little cartoon is hysterical.

And yes, it's true, we are what we eat. This doesn't just apply to food. We eat our own thoughts: about life, about the world, about others, and most importantly, about ourselves.

We are the sum of our thoughts. In other words, what we think we are is what we become in reality.

The most crucial component to successful weight loss is changing your way of thinking.

STOP THINKING OF YOURSELF AS FAT!!

Are you overweight? Can you stand to take off a few pounds? It really doesn't matter how much you need to lose: ten, twenty, fifty, a hundred pounds!

We all gain weight for different reasons: stress, illness, medication, hormones, boredom, depression, a broken heart.

So what can we do about it?

Step #1:
Forgive yourself. You've gained weight. So what? You can lose it. You can take off those excess pounds by reducing fat and calories, adding more fruits and veggies to your diet, and by squeezing some kind of exercise into your day. Every day! You don't have to live in the gym. Walk. Take a bike ride. Play sports. Go swimming. Work in the garden. Go out dancing. Have sex. Anything that gets you up off the couch or away from your desk and gets your body moving and the blood flowing counts as exercise!  DO IT!!

When you continously punish yourself for gaining weight, you get caught in a trap; an endless cycle of constant failure. You become more consumed with the fact that you've put on the weight rather than focusing on actually losing it. Forgive yourself and move on!

Step #2:
Lose the fat mentality. Stop talking about it. Stop thinking of yourself as fat. Stop telling yourself you are fat. Stop referring to yourself as fat. Stop telling others you are fat. Stop joking about being fat. Stop looking in the mirror and seeing yourself as fat. Avoid mirrors for awhile if you must. Yes, it's true, you are overweight. You already know it's unhealthy and you look and feel much better without those extra pounds. Fat is only a symptom but it is not who you are. Got it? FAT IS NOT WHO YOU ARE!!

THIS IS WHO YOU ARE:
a beautiful, lovely, magnetic, amazing, evolving, sexy, healthy, happy, gorgeous creation. 

Start telling yourself that. Over and over until you believe it. Then watch what happens.

Change your thoughts. Change your body. It really is that simple...............